- Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Dress Shopping Tips

It's no secret our Junior Coordinator Shekinah is engaged and actively planning her own wedding. She's spent the last few weeks dress shopping, and here are some tips she'd like to share with you:

You’ve already heard the typical advice about dress shopping. So after my own experience, I figured it was time to let you all in on some things you may not know (the good, bad, and ugly):

Your body shape is basically the same— even if you aren’t at your happiest weight (credit goes to Regina on this one). If you look terrible in a mermaid now, don’t gamble and think that losing twenty pounds is going to make a difference. You will still have the same shape- just less of it.

Always go to more than one dress shop (this does not mean go to fifty). I went to this one place where they didn’t have a large selection of a style that I really wanted to try. I found another, completely different dress that I loved. That being said, I couldn’t tell if I really loved the dress, or if I loved the dress because it was the best that the store could offer me. I’m so glad I went to another store because that’s where I found the dress.

For the love of everything that is holy, please wear appropriate modest underwear. My sister-in-law to be told me about a store she went to and the first thing the lady said was, “Oh thank goodness, you’re actually wearing underwear”. Needless to say, the appointment didn’t last long. Be considerate of other brides who are trying these dresses on and remember that your salesperson is most likely going to be very close to you when it comes to helping you get the dresses on. That is all I will say about that.

Wear the proper undergarments, but skip the Spanx. Stockings are good because it makes some of the smaller samples slide on a little easier. That being said, do you really want to order a dress or wear a size where you need something to suck in your stomach for 12 hours straight? I didn’t think so.

You know your friend and family dynamics- which means YOU are in control of how much drama and opinions there are. I had about twelve people who wanted to be part of the dress process. I brought four people to my appointments. The rest I kindly explained that I went to “just try” on silhouettes and ended up falling in love with a dress. I said I really wanted them to be there and asked if they wanted to come to the salon because I was so excited to show them. This allowed them to feel included without me sacrificing my own peace of mind (ps- if you show a group of people your dress after you officially bought it, they will be MUCH more likely to be on board because they don’t have anything to compare it to, they know you already committed to it, and they’ll see how happy you are in it).

There is a huge difference between a dress making you feel magical about walking into your reception and a dress making you feel magical about walking down the aisle. Recognize that difference- it’s important. If you’re stuck between two dresses, choose the one that you imagine yourself walking down the aisle in—that’s the part of the day that really matters.


  1. Really well thought out, Shekinah--congratulations on finding the one (both gent and dress). I look at these women with huge entourages dress shopping and can't imagine wanting that may people micromanaging me. I think that one good friend with style (or a mom with style) is really adequate, but that's just me.