So in the excitement of writing about what I learned about wedding planning with my own consultation with Regina, I forgot to write about one of the major “milestones” in my internship- I worked my first two weddings! YAYYY!!
Ok, now that my little celebration is out of the way, I have to say I learned so much and most importantly- it was so much fun! It’s also amazing how quickly I found myself adapting to the role of a wedding planner (or at least an assistant to a wedding planner).
I have to admit though, for my first wedding, I was unbelievably nervous. I didn’t want to do anything wrong or be “that” person who royally messes something up and the bride and groom forever remembers as the person who ruined their wedding. I’m not going to lie and say that I was Miss Confident who just sauntered in like I had this whole wedding in my back pocket. Thank goodness Regina was so good with me. She definitely made it a trial by fire, but she didn’t give me tasks that I couldn’t realistically handle. It felt really good that she trusted me to do stuff and it really made me realize that experience is truly the best teacher. I could have just sat and watched Regina do the whole planning, but what would I really have gotten out of it? It’s like you HAVE to go through the motions just to prove to yourself that you do have what it takes to help coordinate a wedding.
I also realized from my first wedding that in a (non-overbearing way), you just need to trust yourself and make decisions. Otherwise, you end up stressing the bride by constantly asking “is this flower the way you want it? Is the pendant sewn exactly where you want on your bouquet?” You have to trust yourself that you DO know what you are doing and that you know your client well enough to not burden them with a billion questions on her day. Despite my hesitancy at first though, I definitely got through the wedding and I had a chance to get my nerves out of my system.
The second wedding that we did seemed like night and day from the first one just because from my first experience, I gained a lot of more confidence and realized that I could take more initiative. Was I perfect the second time around? Of course not, but I felt more ownership of what I was doing and that I didn’t need Regina to hold my hand and validate everything that I did and I finally started trusting my own talents and capabilities.
When all was said and over, I have to say- it was a blast. I know I have a tendency to tell you all how there are all these misconceptions about the industry and yes that is true. BUT- the part where you work with awesome people, where you see everything coming together, where you have a part in bringing a smile to the bride and groom’s faces or making their day easier (even if it’s just by holding the bride’s dress for two hours while she takes pictures), it is SO worth it and that-without a doubt- lives up to all the hype.